My attitude determines my receiving. Therefore, I am in control and am always an expression of praise and appreciation. I receive lavishly. I love my inner spirit unconditionally.

Here’s a different concept but one that makes great sense to me.

It’s from Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.

We’ve talked about establishing goals but we never divided up the different parts of our life with mission statements. This might help us with establishing priorities in goals as well as realizing what we are ignoring that we shouldn’t ignore. It also will point out areas that we need to address with more gratitude. It will help you figure out where there is and isn’t balance in your life.

For instance, maybe you’re a boss, a mother, a girlfriend to other women, a church member, a volunteer, a club member, a PTA member, part of your Home Owners Association, a mentor, etc.

List each part of your life as a role.

Write out a mission statement for each of your roles. What are your responsibilities and desires for each of these roles. Be specific (in everything we do, you have to be specific). Then go ahead and see how well you’re “making it” in each role. If you’re not achieving or reaching what you expect, then what can you do about it. For example, right now my life is focused on this computer project at work. We have about 3 weeks to go but then there’s training after it. It’s consuming most of my life. It’s out of balance. What is losing time and attention is my fitness and my dog. However, now that I am back from two weeks in Colorado I am refocusing my life on my dog and the role I have set out for my life with her. This is very basic but hopefully it will give you an idea.

Terrie

I surround myself with loving people understandand spiritual law. We assist each other along the way fully understanding the more we help others, the more we receive benefits.

  Another reason we don’t get far in achieving our successes is our fears. Often we are too afraid even to examine our fears.

Refusal to do that however, is a sure way to remain stuck in the same rut we’re in.

But to tell you to examine your fears is one thing. To actually do it is another. Often it’s difficult to do this because it involves being able to know what that success is like. Here’s where your visualization and imagination come into play. Remember that visualization is a vital element in creating your Success List. You have to be able to see yourself with that success in your “hands” so to speak. It has to become yours in your mind before it can become yours in the external world. So part of your job in visualizing this success is to see how your life will change and what will be required of you when you hold that success for real.

Let’s take a few examples:

- Weight loss or getting into shape.

What happens when you lose weight? Well, you get lots of compliments and people pay attention to you. Can you handle all that? Are you good at taking compliments? Do you just prefer to fade into the wallpaper? You’ve probably heard that one reason women gain weight is that they’ve been a victim of some sort of abuse in the past and this is their way of protecting themselves from abuse – they try to make themselves unattractive. So what will happen when they take the weight off?

You’ll have to alter your outfits so that will involve shopping and money. Do you have the money and the desire to get new clothes? Will that involve doing something you’ve never done before? Maybe you don’t have alot of money or your spouse doesn’t want you to spend money on clothes or you feel guilty. Or worse yet, you don’t want to get new clothes because you’re afraid that you’ll gain the weight back. This applies to your having to get rid of your old clothes too. There’s that fear of letting go.

These are all underlying fears and they can all serve to sabotage you if you’re not aware and don’t do the clearing (denials) needed to lay the groundwork for a new you.

- Prosperity

You’ve all heard that a great proportion of people who win the lottery are broke again in a few years (or less). If you’re going to be prosperous, you have to know more – know how to handle money, how to save, invest, properly pay off bills etc. You also have to have the proper demeanor when you are prosperous. You need to wear the right clothes, go to the right places, behave in the right manner, etc. Are you prepared to change? Do you want to change? Do you want to learn the new things you have to learn? If you’re afraid of money because you’ve already had problems with it before, then you’ll shy away from achieving what you really deserve. If you’ve been told that you’re no good with money, you’ll have that belief that has to be changed to.

Maybe you think that all prosperous people are snobs or greedy or something negative and you don’t want to be like that. That’s certainly a fear and/or limiting belief.

- Improved relationships

This is a big one. If you’re looking for a significant other, there are many changes you have to make. Are you happy living with someone or are you someone who prefers to live alone? Do you have enough closet space for another person or are your closets all full of your stuff? If so, the Universe doesn’t believe you have any real intention of having someone else in your house. What about your garage? Is there enough room for another car? Do you like your freedom and are afraid that you won’t have this freedom once someone else comes into your life – you won’t be able to come and go as you please?

Do you have habits that you might have to change if someone else is in your life? For example, do you get up early to do stuff around the house or to go running? Maybe that new person in your life won’t like that. Are you willing to give that up? Or, are you afraid of having to change all your habits? Do you have animals and are afraid that a new person will not tolerate them? Are you afraid because you don’t know how to cook? Or don’t clean things up like others think you should?  Do you have so much stuff that there’s just no room for another person?

There’s so much more to think about that can uncover fears and desires of your own. It’s so important that you look beyond the romantic notion of someone paying attention to you. There’s so many more facets to relationships and you have to anticipate them all and decide if this is really what you want.

- New job

Wow, there are so many aspects to this one – so many more than you would think! You have to be able to interview well, you might have to be willing to move. What about meeting new people and getting to know them? Is that something you’re comfortable with? What about the fear of success or of letting your new boss down? Or what about leaving the familiar circumstances of your old job where you know what’s expected of you and you can do your job without having to extend beyond your comfort zone? That’s not going to be the case with  a new job. You’ll have to learn new things (unless you’re “lucky” like I was). Maybe you’ll have to travel more. Are you willing to do that or do you fear leaving your family, your pets, your house to go away? What about a new wardrobe – dress to impress types of thoughts and fears? What if you don’t like the new job when you get into it? What do you do then?

- More time

What will you do with more time? Are you comfortable with yourself? Some people don’t want to spend time with themselves. They are uncomfortable being alone and always have to be busy. You need to delve into that and figure out why. Maybe you really don’t want to have more time to spend with your family because you know you’ll argue more or you’re afraid that your kids will treat you like a typical interfering parent? There’s all sorts of fears associated with time and that prevent people from having more time.  Maybe you’re afraid that in order to have more time you’ll have to get laid off work? Get rid of that fear and know that there are many other ways to have more time in your life.

Once you’ve identified everything that will have to change in your life if you obtain a certain “success”, you’re well on your way to getting rid of that block. You can use a denial on it whether it’s a fear or not. Whatever it is, I guarantee it’s a limiting belief.  Denials denials denials! Work with them and then revisit the “success” to make sure you covered everything. Do this whenever you feel you are not getting close to achieving it. You can even do it whenever you ARE getting close to make sure you don’t stop just short. The way to do that is to continue to go thru this process over and over again. You want to uncover anything and everything that is in your way.

Let me know how it’s going. Post your comments below.

Terrie

I am a blessing to all people and all people are a blessing to me.

Napoleon Hill talks about “Applied Faith” in his “Keys to Success“. As I was skimming through the chapters I saw this and felt it would be perfect as we continue on our positive path for 2012.

It’s called “Demonstrating The Power of Your Faith” and I’m just going to list the steps he talks about in order to build your faith and your “PMA” (Positive Mental Attitude):

1) Adopt a definite major purpose and begin to attain it. This is what we’ve been working on for the past 5-6 weeks now.

2) Affirm the object of your desire through prayer, morning and night. See yourself already in possession of it. You will achieve precisely the success you can envision for yourself.

3) Associate as many as possible of the ten basic motives with your definite major purpose. Give yourself a compelling motive for doing what you want to do. Bring that motive into your mind frequently through the day. Here are the 10 basic motives toward action:

• Self-preservation
• Love
• Fear
• Sex
• Desire for life after death
• Freedom for mind and body
• Anger
• Hate
• Desire for recognition and self-expression
• Wealth

4) Write out a list of all the advantages of your definite major pupose and bring them into your mind as often as you can.  This will make you success-conscious by the power of self-suggestion.

5) Associate with people who are like-minded.

6) Don’t let a day pass without making at least one definite move toward attaining your major purpose.  This is what he calls persistent action. It is key to take action. You can’t sit around and think that your denials and affirmations will make your desire come to pass. It just doesn’t work that way.

7) Choose a “pacesetter”.  Pick someone prosperous, self-reliant and successful and make up your mind not only to catch up with that person but to pass him or her by.  Don’t tell anyone your goal (we’ve told you that many times).

Surround yourself with books, pictures, mottoes and other suggestive devices.  Pick things that symbolize and reinforce achievement and self-reliance.  Keep adding to your collection, move things around, always making it fresh in your mind.  Keep a notebook or diary program around to write down things that inspire you.

9) Never run away from disagreeable circumstances. Fight them with all your resources.

10) Recognize that anything worth having has a definite price tag. The price of self-reliance is eternal vigilance in applying your faith.

Cloe the door of fear behind you and you will quickly see the door of faith open before you.

Write out (or print out) these ten steps and review them daily. Then put them all into practice. Each night you should review this list and see how you are doing with applying your faith!

Terrie

Ok, so it’s the end of January. Now is the time to reassess your “success” list. What has happened in the past month? What have you accomplished?

If you’re well on your way to achieving your successes, great! Maybe you want to revisit the 2012 Success List in order to tweak it or refine it a bit now that you’ve had a month to think about it. But maybe you have uncovered several limiting beliefs this month. If so, use the next week to work with denials to clear them. While you are doing your week’s worth of denials, start working on the wonderful affirmations you want to say AFTER your denials. But don’t say them yet, just start thinking about them. Repeating this process frequently.  In fact, I would like you to consider taking the first week of every month to clear more land and start planting new stronger and healthier seeds. This will keep your ground clear and fertile. You’ll also be surprised at what you discover.

So what if this has not been a great month for following your Success List? What if you ‘gave up’ early on? What if nothing’s happened and you’re discouraged? Should you just stop and wait for next New Year’s Day? Heck no! It’s just time to reassess.

Hopefully you haven’t gotten so upset that you threw out the list. Before you take that list out and go over it, I want you to go back to your inventory list – the one we made at the beginning of the process. Start a new page and date it today’s date. Make an inventory of where you were on 31 December and then write down where you are today. Also write out what’s happened to you this month. This will be easier in the future if you record things every day (a great use for the Gratitude Journal). So what’s been going on in your life? I bet you’ll be surprised at the great things that have happened in this short time. Sometimes all it takes is to look at this inventory to realize that things aren’t as bad as you thought they were. Maybe everything didn’t go perfectly but I bet your attitude about them is much different and more positive. That’s a step in the right directions. Remember that you are not what you think but you are what you thought. So this month’s positive thoughts are producing great things in your life – you just may not be able to see them yet.

But what should you do now?

After you’ve made this inventory, you need to make sure that the items on this list are really yours. We talked about that before but maybe you didn’t really know or you thought the success list items were yours but they aren’t. Check your inner feelings again. Is it you who wants to achieve such and such or is it your wife, your parents, your doctor, etc? If it’s not yours, cross it off. None of this “well, it should be mine even if it isn’t”. That won’t work until it really IS yours. I finally quit smoking when I woke up one day and said “enough, I’m ready to stop this” and then it was easy. But all the other times I tried to stop were unsuccessful because I did not OWN them then. Once I made MY decision, then it was easy – even after 26+ years of smoking.

That would be the first place to start. Examine your list and see if these are things YOU really want. Be honest with yourself. It will mean the difference between success and feeling as if you can’t accomplish anything. Ask yourself if you really want this thing. Where did the idea come from? Has it been a long standing desire? Or something that just developed recently. If it’s long standing, it might have its roots in other people’s encouragement.

Next take a look at your limiting beliefs list. Does it have all of them? The other day I was looking at one of my “Successes” and I began to chastise myself for not doing it yet – fortunately this was followed immediately by the “I don’t have the time or energy to do this. It’s too hard”. What do you think that was? That was three limiting beliefs hitting me smack in the face. I had not dissected this down far enough. If you look at why you haven’t started on or gotten very far on a specific item (more than why you haven’t achieved your goal completely yet), you might find out something really basic that you’ve overlooked – just like I did. Check out all your limiting beliefs. By now you may have uncovered enough that you can find more. You see, that’s the real key to what’s holding your back. The Universe is right there wanting to provide you with whatever it is you want. The only problem is that we’ve got all these obstacles in the way keeping the Universe from being able to hand things right over to us.

If you think you’ve identified all your limiting beliefs, the next (and to me, the most common reason for lack of success) is that you didn’t do your week of denials. You either didn’t even start because you thought they were stupid or that you didn’t need them or whatever reason  but you just didn’t do them or if you did, it was only for a day. Maybe it was a half-hearted attempt. Well, I’m here to tell you that that won’t work. You have to do the denials. Remember that we’re trying to clear the land here so you can plant the new crop of “successes” (goals).

Check your success list for specificity and believability. It may be that you came up with a goal that is way too big right now. Scale it back down (use percentages of increase instead of actual numbers). Revise the goal in a different time frame. Specificity is key too. Remember how I told you I didn’t manifest the car I wanted because I would flip from this to that to something else. I couldn’t get specific. What that eventually told me was that I really didn’t want (or need) the car. If it’s something you really want, you’ll be able to be specific.

Then check your affirmations. Have you created them? Are they specific? Are they in the present tense? Are they positive? Are there any conflicting words or phrases in them (like “in harmony”)? Are they exciting or boring? Revise your affirmations now to make them really hit home emotionally.

Have you said these affirmations? It doesn’t do much good to create them if you don’t say them.

It’s not too late. It’s never too late to start your success list and start working on it. Or to revise it and get back in the saddle – or even get in a different saddle once you find your own successes.

Try this process to reassess your goals.

Let me know what’s happening with you please. Comment below!

Terrie

 Let’s take a look at the Universal Laws this month.

The Law of Consciousness, the Law of Mind Action and the Law of Cause and Effect are the first three laws. I suggest at least once a month you review these first three laws. Sit down with a pen and paper and write down any new ideas that have come up that you think are limiting to you.

As you move into the next Laws coming up, you realize that our subconscious is like peeling skins off of an onion. We peel a little bit off at a time. We move through those and into a new awareness. Then we have to go back and pull off another layer. We look at another viewpoint with different things. Each time we evaluate where and who we are and what we’re doing with our lives.

We have within us that capacity to dream bigger, receive newer ideas and expressions of what we want to do and have an unfolding life that gets better all the time. It took us many years to limit ourselves through the subconscious action of error belief and the mistakes of life.

As we make these changes in our lives, we need to go back and look at the Law of Consciousness again.

What do we really believe? If we still attract unpleasant people to our lives, then we say, “What is it? Reveal to me this truth.” Ask yourself over and over, “Show me something new that I can do. Show me how I can let go of these old ideas. What is it that I need to let go of at this time?

Each time we move through a review of these earlier laws, we open up ourselves for the Christ mind to become stronger and more powerful in our lives. That is when your ideas begin to become genius activity. You begin to dream in bigger and better ways. The Christ in you has no limitations.

The Christ in you has no barriers. It has nothing that will prevent the Christ itself from being that radiant life of spirit within you. You can do all things. You begin to believe it as you get all of the little things out of the way that have kept you in struggle, overcoming and all of the things that you thought you had to do.

We work with the Law of Cause and Effect and realize that as we’re giving out, it’s coming back. The more stability we have in our ability to hold onto that faith that we’re working with these laws, the quicker and easier they come back to us.

Terrie

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Through giving thanks I receive ever increasing blessings.

This week’s phrase is “Hurting for money”.

Have you heard this? People who don’t have enough money sometimes will say this. But what are you really saying?

“Hurting” = pain

“For Money” – Getting money

So, this tells your subconscious mind that you have to have pain in order to get money.

This contradicts all we teach. You do NOT have to hurt or experience pain in order to get money. Prosperity (in all fields, not just wealth) is easy and is yours by Divine Right!

See if this is your belief. Were you brought up thinking you have to struggle and work really hard and have pain in order to be prosperous.

If this is buried inside you, create your denials (such as “there is no pain in or around my financial affairs” or “I do not have to hurt in order to get money” etc). Say these denials for at least a week and see what else comes up (and create denials for whatever comes up).

Then use your affirmations after that. If you can’t come up with a personalized one use “Wealth and prosperity is mine by Divine Right and it comes to me easily and quickly”.

You do deserve everything and can have everything. We just have to peel that onion away.

Terrie